Day 6 - 364 -- Seeing Out Another Year

Well, here we are at the end of another year of blogging, and it appears that I missed a day somewhere along the way <sigh>. Sorry -- but I'll aim for 366 next year <grin>. Much introspection occurs at this time of year. To me, it makes sense to look back on the experiences of the past year in all their naked pain and pleasure. How have these occurrences changed us? What have we learned about ourselves? Have we changed as a result?  Granted, there will be events that we never want to encounter again in life. They are part of us, yet we can learn much from them. We need to look at successes and failures.I dislike that word, since not all things that don't go according to plan are failures, as long was we choose to grow in their wake.

We can choose to be gentle with seeing out some years and see other years passing as good riddance. The song I chose for today fits the latter. The lyrics note the regular change that occurs around us. It also irreverently bids adieu to the past with a somewhat rude hand gesture. <smile>  Enjoy!

Two Fingers -- Jake Bugg

Day 6 - 363 -- Find the Beauty

Some days we struggle with negative feelings of all types -- some from clear sources and others from no where in particular. The former can be justified, while the latter lead to further distress from trying to figure out why that one day brings on challenging feelings. Either way the feelings are valid and yet humans seem to compare themselves with others, trying to feel better or worse about themselves and their feelings.

Noticing the wonderful things in our days, even the bad days, can show us that there is beauty in the world around us as well as within each of us. Just a thought. A song by a favourite singer-songwriter contains lyrics that might help with seeing that beauty. Enjoy!

Beautiful -- Carole King

Day 6 - 362 -- Thoughts of Travel

Today saw one extra blue bag ready to take to the curb. That is the goal I set as it seemed manageable. When I have exceeded that number of bags, it has felt great <smile>, but getting a single extra bag out feels good, too.  That was the highlight of the household cleaning today.

In a conversation with a friend about the desire to travel, got me thinking of the places I'd like to see fir the first time, those I'd happily return to again, and the many things that I'd like to see and experience. Food. Art. Museums. Architecture. History. Culture. There is no shortage of places even on a short list -- shorter might fit better as a modifier there <smile>. The urge to travel isn't just superficial ticking things off a list. In past travels, I've learned to see the world and myself differently. I've learned new things and new perspectives. Traveling augments the journey through life. Hopefully, the next year will bring some wonderful travel adventures.

One song ran through my mind today. It fit the idea that we join many bands in our lives, as presented by Mitch Albom (The Magic Strings of Frankie Presto) and Mike Nesmith (Infinite Tuesdays). Travel is also central to the lyrics.  Enjoy!

Travelin' Band -- Creedence Clearwater Revival

Day 6 - 361 -- It's all about the music

I finished reading an amazing book this week -- The magic strings of Frankie Presto by Mitch Albom. The story, narrated by the talent, Music, explores the impact of talent in changing the lives of those with the talent and those surrounding talented people. Interwoven throughout the story are fictional encounters between Frankie Presto and actual people in the music industry from 1940s onward, which included how meeting Presto transformed their lives. The intricacies of the life of the main character are fascinating and did not fail to surprise at points. I'd recommend this book to anyone ready for a story about a journey through life with all its ups and downs -- all told through the lens of music, talent and fame.

I want to share three of the many points made by the author that spoke to me -- particularly in terms of why this blog exists.

"What would you give to remember everything? I have this power. I absorb your memories; when you hear me, you relive them. A first dance. A wedding. The song that played when you got the big news. No other talent gives your life a soundtrack. I am Music. I mark time." (p. 371).

"Music tells the truth." (p, 423)

"I am Music. And Music is in the connection of human souls, speaking a language that needs no words." (p. 489)

How cool are those quotations? In this blog, a musical selection has been used for each of these reasons -- to tell the truth, produce memories and connect readers by speaking a universal language. Today the song chosen thanks Music. Enjoy!

Thank you for the Music -- Amanda Seyfried

Day 6 - 360 -- Banality and Pedestrianism

The morning was sunny, but clouded over by the time I headed out to pay a bill. I met a friend I hadn't seen for some time as I walked through the parking lot. It was great to have a few moments to exchange the latest news and provide best wishes for the new year. I had plans to do some overdue housework when I got back to the house. I ate some lunch and then did very little of note. I did have a nap and then I made supper and washed my hair. Mudane seems an understatement <smile>. 

There is much cleaning to do and I need to get on this while I'm not working on writing projects over the next week. It is definitely time to declutter in several areas, but one at a time should help things move out or into more organized storage. The goal has been to get an extra bag or two of recycling out to the curb on pick up days once every two weeks. The larger goal is to help the house look less like a hoarders training ground. <sigh> As an adult, I moved house every 1-4 years. I have now been in the same space for 21 years. When work hours were so intense, clearing 'stuff' just didn't occur. Repurposing items and downsizing makes sense now before a move might present itself. Such physical work might help to declutter the mind, too. The key here may be finding the impetus to propel me forward into the work. <smile>

The selection for today deals with the banality or pedestrianism of routine in life. This isn't always bad, but looking around and being a bit more mindful could provide a different perspective to life. Perhaps this is why I challenge myself to do new things each year -- even small things indicate life isn't stuck in a rut. The lyrics are quite telling in this song with interesting melodic and rhythmic components. Enjoy!

The Day before You Came -- ABBA

Day 6 - 359 -- Countdown?

Boxing Day in Canada -- businesses and government offices close for the day, but retail outlets are open for major sales. I have avoided such crowds for many years as it can be so frustrating and hateful to see people at their worst. The crass commercialism of the season seems to end here or when 'boxing week' -- a purely marketing invention -- comes to an end. Chocolate hearts and eggs will be front and centre in the coming week, I expect <sigh>.

A friend often does a turkey dinner on this day, so I prepared turnip puff. A second day of feasting adds another bright note to the holiday -- all part of the 12 days between Christmas and Epiphany or Christmas celebrated on the Gregorian calendar with that celebrated on the Julian calendar (Old Christmas in the Maritimes and Ukrainian Christmas in western Canada). It seemed fitting that a song dealing with this time period be shared here today as my celebrations continued. This is a fun one <smile>. Enjoy!


A Moose in a Maple Tree -- Chris Murray

Day 6 - 358 -- Everywhere Translations

Christmas Day brought cooking a vegetable dish for Christmas dinner at a friend's home. This dish deconstructs Brussels sprouts, removing the individual leaves and sauteing the quartered cores with shallots and garlic; the leaves are added and steamed after the first mixture begins to carmelize. <yum>. The walk to dinner was not overly cold, but the wind was biting for the couple of blocks headed into the westerly breeze.

Dinner was a multicultural and multilingual event -- mainly Spanish and Chinese with some English and a smattering of Portuguese. The almost 3-year old speaks the first two with a bit of English thrown in. His English 'thank you' is impeccable <smile>. Translations between the three languages became interesting and I had a friend turn to me, say something in Chinese and then say, "right?"  Others laughed whenever that happened, too (my Cantonese is limited to thank you, I'm afraid). It was a lively evening, to say the least <smile>. Our usual hosts were away for the holiday, so we gathered at the home of another one of the usual crowd this year.

Gathering together with friends and family can bring positive emotions. Yet, not everyone can be together at this time, so there may be a bit of wistfulness added to the mix. A few lines from a song ran through my head today about gathering together and working towards harmony. Enjoy!

Christmas is my Time of Year -- The Monkees

Day 6 -- 357 -- Peace

Christmas Eve day was spent in the kitchen. I made a pot of cabbage rolls. The first time I've made these. The result was passable, but the filling needs more seasoning to be like what I recall from childhood. I'll dress it up with more sauce for flavour. I got the veggie dishes for Christmas and Boxing Day pre-prepped, which will make those days go more smoothly. So, not surprisingly -- since 'food is my life' [tm] -- today was all about food. A long-standing friend -- as in the longest friendship I have -- called for a chat today. It was great to get caught up on the plans for the holiday week.

A favourite theme of mine at Christmas involves peace -- freedom from conflict and the just as elusive inner peace. The musical choices today deal with this concept. The first selection is an amazing duet with counterpoint melodies. And just for the record, I do recall seeing the original airing <smile>. The second selection covers an historic event that occurred on this night 105 years ago. Wishing you all a peaceful holiday season. Enjoy!

Peace on Earth/Little Drummer Boy -- Bing Crosby & David Bowie

It could happen again -- Collin Raye

Day 6 - 356 -- Begin at Home

Some errands were done this morning, but by evening no card or cooking completed. After an appointment this afternoon, I did two blogs to catch up to today. I also ensured that everything is ready to cook early in the day and then focus on cards while things simmer for a few hours.

I realized today that being kind to myself is challenging. Simply acknowledging what I've accomplished can be difficult and never feels like enough. I need to learn to accept the many things I've done. Not to brag -- but to note that I've managed a successful career, mentored many students and peers, and can problem solve wit the best of them <smile>. A friend noted recently that I also need to learn to take a compliment with grace instead of contradicting the giver. Again, a difficult thing for me, but I'm willing to work on it. This may be a way to improve inner peace. It also involved taking my own advice for others <smile>.

The song for today speaks to the dream for peace, kindness and love for everyone. That should reflect to the individual as well as those around them. The duo in this version sounds amazing together. Enjoy!

Someday at Christmas -- Stevie Wonder and Andra Day

Day 6 - 355 -- Working Through the Holidays

Mundane things filled the day. More laundry, minor bits of cleaning (and there are big bits needing my attention), and small attempts to address the mountain of correspondence. It was a teary kind of day -- some for reasons and some for no reason that I could put a finger on. This time of year often brings on sadness. People that were the centre of the holiday season have left this world while others are a great distance away. Maybe sadness isn't the right word; it could be more a feeling of being alone. Now, that isn't the case, either; new traditions have been made involving other people and telephone and electronic communication media can connect us with those further than a short drive away.

Today, a call from a dear friend helped us both to move out of the blue funk and laugh at some of the absurdities of situations we each face. An electronic conversation with a loved one also helped to get past the tears and smile more. So -- again, I am not alone -- not at all. <smile>  Having people who listen when there is a difficult day is part of the construct of social support. We know we have people who can assist when things go sideways for us. When they contact me to chat just when I need them, saves that difficult part of having to contact them when I feel down -- that is, asking for help <smile>. But, I know I could and they would be there. The other part of this construct is that I know that I can support the friends when they are having a bad day or week. In order to improve health, this relationship must be reciprocal. How cool is that? <smile>

A song that came to mind expresses some of the feelings of the day, clearly noting that others may not understand the effect of the sparkly holiday season. Now I need to dig around and find those stars for my shoes. <smile> Enjoy!


Christmas Blues -- Dean Martin

Day 6 - 354 -- Last Minute Shopping

Saturday on the weekend before Christmas.-- definitely a day to avoid stores and shopping districts in general. So where was I? Exactly!  I got groceries yesterday and got home to realize that I had forgotten a key ingredient for a dish I planned to make over the weekend. I found two or three other things that I could pick up to make a trip worthwhile. Wondering if I could wait until Monday, I realized that it would likely be even worse since people feel the need to buy enough food for two weeks if the stores are closed for a day. So -- off I went. To say it was busy is an understatement, but I managed to maneuver through the aisles with little frustration. When I headed to the check outs, I had only five items. The less than 5 aisle was closed, but no one was at the under 15 aisle. Score!  On my way home I stopped at a friend's place and shoveled the snow from yesterday. At home, I tried to sweep the bit that fell overnight. In both places, the heavy wet snow sat on top of a bottom layer of ice crystals that must be crazy glued to the sidewalk and pavement. It will be slippery tomorrow when it freezes more. I guess I'll have to find the salt and grit to put out on the worst areas.

I found two songs that reminded me of being out and about with everyone else in the county today. <smile> Each brings a smile if not a laugh with the tongue in cheek lyrics and mental visuals. Enjoy!

Christmas Can Can -- Straight No Chaser

Christmas Shopping -- Buck Owens

Day 6 -- 353 -- Being Vulnerable

Surprise scattered itself throughout the day. I began by paying a bill for a reassessment of the tax return -- it appears the software package didn't fully populate a line in the income section, but included it in deductions. Lesson learned -- never trust software to do your job for you <smile>. A quick visit to the physio gave me some new exercises to do to ward off future difficulties. In the evening, I got the lights on the tree, but not without incident. While trying to untangle the string of lights in my hand, I stepped sideways while focused on the mass of cord I held and managed to fall over the footstool -- I'd moved it from its usual spot and forgot it was there <sigh>. Pulled a muscle in the shoulder and have pain on the opposite shin, but nothing really huge. Heat and ice will be my friends over the weekend. <smile>

While sitting at a restaurant for lunch, I asked myself how I was going to be brave today. I thought about several things that could have me walking into my own discomfort. A pep talk for myself was the result -- a talk that I'll share with you all. Do something that scares you or takes your breath away -- makes you stop breathing when the feelings get so intense that you simply hold your breath without realizing it. Put yourself out there -- be vulnerable rather than in such tight control. I'm not advocating you try cliff diving or bungee jump off a bridge, but rather that you face something that seems difficult to you from the emotions that it can bring -- the emotions that take you out of that place of control. Address the thing(s) that may stop you from experiencing all life has to offer. Perhaps it means that you have to take your own advice <smile> and just go for it and don't fear that experience <smile>. I believe that taking control by giving up control could bring happy, peaceful feelings. Wow -- that may be a lot to digest. <grin>

Well, a song for this pondering was a challenge especially given the holiday theme used this month. One did present itself, though. The lyrics speak to anticipation that comes with facing something new to you, and they note the gift of positive emotions such forays into vulnerability can bring. The singer, a Canadian from Scotland, has the perfect voice for this song. Enjoy!

Waiting for Christmas to Come -- Johnny Reid

Day 6 - 352 -- Celebrating Together

While walking to do errands this morning and to visit a friend, I finally broke out the Christmas and holiday tunes for my ear buds. In the evening, I put up the tree -- an artificial due to allergies. It is just the tree today. I'll tackle the lights tomorrow and we'll go from there if inspired. <smile>. This part of the country has a 50:50 chance of having a white Christmas. My preference would be green, but we do get those often. This year, it is likely to be white since there is a bit of snow expected most days between now and New Years.

This week involved a lot of catching up with colleagues as their grading duties ended. With this came greetings and well wishes for the holidays and the New Year. I enjoy that part of the season. Now, my paper cards to those not online, will be New Year cards if we're lucky. I'm still working on that. As a friend noted recently, even in retirement there are only 24 hours in the day. <smile>

A song that seemed to suit the day speaks to celebrating together through song. The harmonies are wonderful. Enjoy!

The Christmas Sing-Along -- Pentatonix 

Day 6 - 351 -- Fight, Flight, Freeze

 A couple of phone and e-mail messages today led to increased hovering anxiety -- like something hanging over my left shoulder just waiting to strike. We have been in flux as the landlord has been trying to sell the property. Closing should be this week, so there will be a new landlord. The lease goes with the sale, so nothing can change until next summer on the lease anniversary date. Until then, so many 'what if' questions arise that make it easier for that anxiety to hover in place. There will be a final walk through tomorrow and then things will finalized by end of the week.

When threatened in some way, we naturally head into fight, flight or freeze mode. This threat to the comfort and feeling of home feels huge. I've found recently that I tend to head to the freeze mode while my mind races wildly to the worse case scenarios. Luckily, there are people that have helped me manage such fears. It seems to be all in perspective <smile>.

While I'd love to hide and ignore such intrusions on my feelings of safety and security, that isn't the best way to deal. There is a great song, though, with lyrics that describe that need to hide. The singer is a Saskatchewanian like me, so the song does deal with cold weather events. The piano is amazing in this one. This is from the album "Songs of a Pairie Girl." <smile> Enjoy!

River by Joni Mitchell

Day 6 - 350 -- Noting the small things

The weather today was less windy and cold feeling. My main event involved providing a talk to a 55+ Lunch and Learn group at the Town Library. For this Department of Extension function, I spoke to one of my major research projects as part travelogue and part research methods. It was fun to do. I knew 9 of the 12 attendees by name <smile>. Later, I took my first trip with the new car heading to the grocery store -- .  The last trip to the store ended with the exhaust pipe falling from the older vehicle <smile> Small things can mean a lot. <smile>

Some days the small things are all that keep us afloat. That smile from a stranger as you pass on the street, hearing an uplifting song, or having an uneventful trip to the grocery store with a new vehicle. Even when other events may feel less positive, the small things can turn the day into something better than expected. Generally this requires some reflection over the events of the day, but there are moments throughout a day that just hit you with the fact that others are there and you aren't really alone. Some days it can be difficult to notice the small things. For this reason taking a few moments at the end of the day to think through the events of the day may highlight the small things that made the rest bearable -- for you or for someone else. It doesn't take long to do, but the benefits are that it can change your outlook on the whole day. <smile>

A song that came to mind today isn't technically a holiday song, but it comes from a movie that plays most holiday seasons. The lyrics are an ode to small things. Enjoy!

My Favorite Things -- Julie Andrews

Day 6 - 349 -- Newness or Neophobia?

The wind today was strong in the morning and just increased in strength as the day progressed. By my walk home tonight, the wind buffeted me around quite well. It was certainly cold with the wind. The big event for the day involved a major purchase -- a new vehicle. I'll admit that writing a cheque for this was a bit surreal. Prices have gone up since I last bought a vehicle in 2007. I've also discovered that the electronic nature of these items has exploded since my last new car. So, I will need to read the Owner's Manual to get a handle on what is where and how to make the bits I need most to work for me. The keyless entry will take some getting used to and beyond that I'm left feeling like a Luddite. All information needed is on the touch screen, so another item to learn to communicate with. With time and practice things will work. Right now, I need to figure out how to play a station on the radio once you've selected it. There will be a trip back to dealer ship to reset two items that are not functioning as they should be -- minor stuff, so I'll add the radio functioning to that list, too. <g>

Technology is part of our daily lives. I've learned to use smart phones and tablets and many other electronic devices and software. Finding yet another electronic hurdle to decipher feels daunting. This newer one doesn't seem very similar to other devices, which makes the learning curve a bit steeper. It will all come together with time and patience -- neither of which I feel I have in adequate amounts at present <smile.>.

A song that came to mind today brings with it a peaceful feeling as the lyrics deal with peace. That is what I needed to come to terms with cost and electronics. The counterpoint melodies are so soothing. Enjoy!

Dona Nobis Pacem -- Julie Gault

Day 6 - 348 -- Seasonal Thoughts

Many tasks on the 'to do' list for the weekend were completed today, while many more were left undone. A friend recently reminded me that even in retirement the days are only 24 hours long <smile>. I did get the presentation together for the public lecture through our Extension department. It felt good to get into that one, since the topic deals with my research process. I look forward to this one. Other household chores were tackled, though still little in the form of Christmas decorations up, thought many boxes sit on the dining room table waiting for this very task. Soon.

I do enjoy Christmas decorations once they are up. It seems to take a long while to get some things up, but it feels so good to sit and stare at the tree lights late at night. So, it will get done. Perhaps it wouldn't seem so onerous if I were to do 15 to 20 minutes each day instead of needing several hours all at once. Now I don't put up everything I own, but I do like some key changes to the usual living room decor. Most towels and linens are out already, so we are not devoid of cheer <smile>. I wrote the annual letter today that will be send in cards to friends and family without electronic communication access. These will be New Year cards since they will hit the post office after the mailing deadlines. It is a season and not just a day, so I hope the greetings will be accepted later.

The song today contains lyrics that describe great winter visuals. It has a softer peaceful sound from both the melody and the artist's voice. Enjoy!

Aspenglow -- John Denver

Day 6 - 347 -- Need a Strategy

Woke earlier than planned and began the household chores -- laundry and superficial cleaning. I tried to focus on a project that is to be presented early next week. I was tired, so found myself napping instead of working. I tried again after supper and got a good start on populating the outline made in my head earlier. Hopefully, tomorrow will see this completed so it can be printed on Monday. I find myself concentrating on things other than the tasks at hand -- not sure how to alter that, though. Just need some strategy to be less distracted and apply more attention to a project  for shorter time periods. Taking breaks and seeing some progress might help with the degree of momentum needed. If it helped with reducing the stress level over this project, that would be good, too. <smile>

Rain began around noon today and continued into the early evening. Warmer temperatures are blowing in but will drop by end of day tomorrow. After that the forecast notes frozen precip almost daily for the next two weeks. Not huge amounts, but a steady addition to whatever has already accumulated. So, while it isn't yet past the solstice, winter is setting up residence outside my windows.

The selection for today has a wonderful message wrapped in a relaxing sound. It produces a feeling of calm for me today. Enjoy!

That's What I want for Christmas -- James Lee Stanley

Day 6 - 346 --Work Flows

Another sunny winter day is over and clouds are rolling in for a storm tomorrow. For us, it will likely be a large amount of rain followed by a big temperature drop on Sunday. I headed into the office this morning to deal with the software issue that arose yesterday. The system worked exactly as expected today, so all files got uploaded on time. I spent time with one of the writing projects working to get concepts clear and the flow straight, building from one concept to the next. We are getting close to completing this phase of the project and it is rather exciting. <smile>  At the end of the afternoon, I headed out to brush snow off the car and get a box from the trunk. Both plans were thwarted when I found the doors frozen shut. I'll have to do this tomorrow when the temperature rises above freezing. That might mean being out there in pouring rain, but I have the requisite gear to keep me dry.

I look around and see bits of Christmas showing in store windows and lights on houses. My plan for the weekend involves getting some bit of the season into the house. I do love having some of the decorations around to make things feel more festive and fits with family tradition. I do have a couple of items that I need to pick up next week for gift-giving with friends on the 25th. These won't be difficult to find, so all the last minute shoppers should not create difficulties for this single shopper <smile>.  Cards and letters to those without electronic access will need to get out very soon, too. Looks like another lengthy 'to do' list this weekend. <smile>

Tonight I'm sharing a song that highlights the personal meanings of the Christmas season. The video clearly shows the childhood roots of the holiday feelings in a unique way. The harmonies of this group have been amazing since the first song I heard from them. This is another relaxing selection. Seems I'm in that groove at present -- just needing to sit, breathe and move through the plan <smile>. Enjoy!

That's Christmas to Me -- Pentatonix

Day 6 - 345 -- Sunshine and Irritations

The day was filled with many great things as well as a couple of irritations. It began with an appointment, followed by a dash to the office to type, print and scan a document that needs to be sent off today. That didn't happen as the scanner at work failed to send the e-mail to my inbox. So, when dealing with this later, I realized I have to head into the office again tomorrow to get the silly thing to send as it should have today.  Lunch involved a gathering of retirees from the campus. There were nearly 80 of us present this year for the wonderful turkey dinner and visits with people we don't see too often. This is the second luncheon I've attended and it is always lovely to chat with everyone.  After that, I met a friend for tea and a chat. Lots of laughter as usual when we are together. When I got home, I checked e-mail to see where things were with a planned purchase, only to find a flurry of messages that I felt made little sense. One clearly noted that an error had been made on the seller side and I was being asked to suck of the excess funds necessary from an inaccurate estimate. A somewhat firm no was sent and then followed by several other silly questions. By the end of the evening, I finally made a phone call to ask what it was that I still needed to do and why I was being asked this stream of questions. My suggestion for 'fixing' the problem had been accepted earlier but the questions had continued. I think things were straightened out when we hung up, but I'm not 100% certain. Just so awkward. <sigh>

The air was colder today with a deeper wind chill, but the sun made the day feel bright. The snow that fell from tree limbs created a sparkles in the air. This reminded me of the ice crystals found in the air when below -30C on the prairies -- air filled with sparkles. Despite the technology and communication snafus, I tried to focus on the positive. I did grump and felt unsettled for a while but am trying to move those feelings elsewhere. Breathe, relax and smile. Sometimes that helps. Some days, it doesn't. I think it is heading in the right direction for now.

The song for tonight has a relaxing sound. I was struck by the age of the band members -- when did that happen? <smile> Enjoy!

Christmas and You -- Los Lobos

Day 6 - 344 -- Holiday Fete

Today began earlier than usual in order to address a number of items that desperately needed attention. Even so, I seemed to be out of sync with the real time and confused the times twice when trying to get to a meeting too soon and then too late. All worked out in the end. Work on the major purchase seems to headed to a successful conclusion. Will know for certain early next week. Several small tasks were completed and sent off for deadlines. Two more need attention tomorrow to get things off on time.

At the end of the afternoon, the first holiday fete of the season occurred on campus. There was a small turnout, which could be due to too much grading on desks of attendees or the snow that was falling with vigor by that time of day. Earlier in the day, it was warmer so the snow melted on contact with roads and walkways. By the end of the  afternoon it was sticking to all surfaces. We walked home in the picturesque snow covered world. A friend was taking pictures for her winter greetings letter. It did look festive with snow and lights. I love the dampening effect snow has on sound -- like walking in a muffled world as the snowflakes hold sound between the flakes and the sound rises with the temperatures. The physics behind it all is very cool and I've not done it justice here. My evening consisted of a longer than usual nap. Guess that is a message that I better and more sleep might be in order. I hope to take a couple of weeks to do little research work -- though I know some will be done since it does bring a good feeling. During that time, I want to do some work in the house and think more about the quilting pattern I have in mind as my winter project -- like I was busy doing noting or something <grin>.

so, I've been trying to do something different for the holiday season blog selection this year. While some traditional songs will be included, I've been looking for and listening to many 'new' songs -- brand new to me or a new twist on an older song. Tonight I share one that has a relaxing sound from a great artist. What is better than one artist? Three artists! The video brings a smile for this effort. Enjoy!

I'll be your Santa Tonight -- Keith Urban

Day 6 - 343 -- Snow Eater

Much of interest filled my day. It began with good news from a friend -- always great to start on a good note <smile>. I headed out to discuss a major purchase with sales people. This took far longer than anticipated and still I'm no further ahead that I was when I started. So --I see more discussions and online searching in my future. Weather was a surprise as it was warmer than had been forecast -- 14C when I headed out the door in late morning. Wild. The winds overnight had managed to devour the snow and ice, leaving behind the green grass and bare ground. Rain is expected overnight and then there will be a hard freeze later in the day tomorrow accompanied by snow -- shovel-able amounts. <sigh> This will be followed on the weekend with warmer temps and more rain. It feels like a recipe for an icy winter.

Where I grew up on the Canadian prairies, there is a wind that blows from the west out of the foothills of the Rockies. The winds are called Chinooks, though local indigenous peoples referred to such winds as 'snow eaters.' I've seen the warmer winds eliminate snow piles many feet high in less than a day. It creates a form of winter thaw. If I was living in the west, I would have termed today a chinook wind. There isn't a name for this type of wind locally, though. We could just call it the 'wow' wind, since that is the reaction it provides most people.

The song today deals more with the holiday season than the weather or the events of the day. I like this newer song by a singer with a great smooth sound. Sit back, listen and relax. Enjoy!

By Christmas Eve -- John Legend

Day 6 - 342 -- Finding the Calm

Temperature increased overnight to be well above freezing by afternoon. Rainfall forecasts call for about an inch of rain by end of day tomorrow, followed by -- ta da -- a flash freeze to ice up the world for Wednesday. We are moving quickly into the next season. I'm still not sure I'm ready for it all. <smile>

After some work at home today, I headed out to the post office desk at the drug store to mail Christmas parcels. When I got there, ten people were ahead of me in line. When my turn came, the computer chose to freeze, so we couldn't go forward or back. I quietly said that I feared the 15 or so behind me in line might riot it that happened. The clerk responded that they could get me out the back way if need be <smile>. I found our ability to hang on to the humour in the situation was great. Deadlines happen later this week, so there will be long lines for the next several days. Finding a way to focus on something positive while waiting in lines at this time of year, is a challenge, but one that can be done with a bit of preparation and a positive outlook.

A fun song came to mind for today. The video showed one type of animal known to help reduce stress in people. It involves a partnership with an animal rescue organization. Enjoy!

Christmas Kisses -- Serena Ryder

Day 6 - 341 -- Recalling a Major Thought Leader

The sun shone most of the day. Clouds are to arrive into the overnight and remain for a few days. These will bring rain and snow by mid-week. Some of the household tasks were completed and a couple of feeble attempts at reading and reviewing for two small writing projects. One is due the end of the week and the other is needed for the following week, but would be best if completed by weekend to allow for practice time. The latter is a public presentation about my research process with historical documents. It should be fun and not require heavy thinking from the audience. That is my plan.

Today marks the 39th anniversary of the murder of John Lennon. While far from perfect -- and what human being is? -- his life had a major impact on the world. This was a thought leader for a generation. His music reached everywhere. His clothing choices set fashion trends. His advocacy for peace received global media coverage. He had impact in all spheres of daily life. One can only imagine how those major ideas might have developed had he been in this world longer. His music alone is wonderful to have, but might there have been even more? Yes, this does sound a bit selfish, but when a leader is removed from the sphere of influence in such a violent manner -- when peace was on of the leader's main messages -- it is difficult not to continue to wonder how things might have differed.

The two selections for today fit with the memories of this amazing leader. The first is a seasonal song that builds on the advocacy for equity and peace that occupied much of his time. The second is one of the best tributes to Lennon by another artist, one that refuses to play this song in public as it still makes him cry.  NOTE: for the second song, if you click on the album cover thumbnail it should disappear. Enjoy!

Happy Christmas/War is over -- John Lennon with theh Plastic Ono Band and The Harlem Community Choir

Empty Garden -- Elton John

Day 6 - 340 -- Saturday Smiles

Saturday has been rather calm. Some bits of housework were done and work files organized for the tasks that need completion by early next week. Sun shone early in the day with cloud returning by evening. I attended a Christmas radio play on the theatre with a friend. Many familiar faces and voices on stage. The script was written by a local playwright and incorporated many inside jokes with a cast of characters similar to those in town. The musical breaks were wonderful with a bell choir, women's a Capella choir, and a couple of solo and duet numbers from the amazing voices in town. The instrumentals were provided by a geology professor who played an acoustic guitar and flute as well as singing the final number. A harpist and the handbell choir added to the festive tone of some scenes and songs. It was sold out for the two nights it played.

From the laughter of the evening, I felt positive. I chose to walk the 10 minutes home rather than take the ride offered to me. There was a bit of snow falling and the wind had died down so it fell in a vertical manner rather than something more akin to horizontal snow <smile>. It was a peaceful walk that maintained the smiles I had from the play and visiting with a friend. Now that we are both retired, we don't see each other daily as we did for years. This part of the new retirement normal requires that we make concerted efforts to maintain those relationships that have been at the core of our work lives. Another challenge of change. <smile>

The song that closed the play tonight made me smile. I found a cover online by a musician from just down the road from home. I met him briefly at a friend's wedding when he'd played a concert in the hotel gardens that had have a 20 minute intermission so the vows could be exchanged. <smile> Enjoy!

Cool Yule -- Colin James

Day 6 - 339 -- Shifting Tempo

Sun shone again today. It still brings surprise as it is December and somethng is to fall from the sky in the next 24 hours, so every moment with the sun is special. I ran errands on Main Street and met a friend on the walk back home. Then I headed up to the office, only to discover after climbing a gajillion stairs that I did not have the office key with me. A colleague down the hall called Security for me and from there the writing process was to begin. A video chat with my co-author left us discussing pertinent issues that had little to do with the writing project. We did get through parts of the reading for flow and clarity, but not everything. The goal is to complete that for the project admin meeting next Tuesday.

After getting as far as I could with the reading for revisions, I headed to a small fete on campus for the holiday season. It was a lovely gathering with lots of chatting and laughter. I spent time discussing favourite sci-fi franchises with upcoming debuts in the next few weeks. It is always fun to find someone who enjoys the same quirky movies and series. That made me smile. To be honest, I seemed to smile a lot today. <smile>  In the evening, a friend who is heading out for the Christmas season with distant family members, stopped by for a chat before he departure. More laughter and smiles there, too.

While things didn't quite go according to plan today, there was little negative reaction to that. The Rhythm of the day did shift regularly, but in a good way. A song with several tempo changes is shared here tonight. The voices and harmonies of this group are stunning. Enjoy!

God Rest Ye Merry Gentlemen -- Pentatonix

Day 6 - 338 -- Reliant on the Kindness of Strangers

While getting ready to leave the house this morning, I found the limbic system had cunningly taken hold when I looked in the other direction for a moment. Trying to regain control by the logical thought processes I prefer, I found myself yelling something at the air. Then I laughed, for the negative emotion had been identified and it wasn't just the anger that the limbic crew hoped I'd grab hold of. Once I had a handle on that, I could begin to deal with the root of that outburst. It took most of the day, just working away at it while going about my business. Lunch with friends brought me to a happy place. After a few errands, I drove up to the grocery store. On the way out of the parking lot onto the main road, the muffler assembly chose to finally drop away from the front end but remain firmly in place at the back end. I pulled off the road into a gas bar where I planned to call CAA. As I got out of the car, a man walked over to me and asked if I planned to drive far like that. He then looked under the car where the pipe was clearly hanging. I asked if he had any wire to reattach it to something so I could get through the 5 minute drive home. He checked the huge trailer he was hauling, found twine and tied it up. I tearfully thanked him for being so kind. He said humanity had to take care of each other or what kind of world would it be. More tears. I then realized the keys were inside the car and the doors were locked <sigh>. I went around to the other side of the car, called the dealership just down the road and made arrangements for them to bring me a door key. While standing there behind the car, I hid a bit and cried -- tears of gratitude, not frustration anger. That surprised me. The helpful man had walked back over to assure me I could drive the car to the house. I explained the key issue and he said I definitely had had a bad day and then offered to stay with me until the new key arrived. I thanked him but said I'd be fine and off he drove. Another man had been part of earlier conversations and he, too, stopped to chat a bit before leaving -- just to make sure I was OK. When the mechanic from the dealership arrived, he, too, was so kind. I made a point of thanking each of these people and letting them know how much I appreciated their kindnesses.

Needless to say, the ride home was a bit louder than usual <smile>. I had to go for a walk to deal with the adrenaline and  tenseness that had settled in on the drive home. I walked up to the mall, did a bit of shopping for gifts that need to get into the mail, and walked home. A shower helped the muscles relax a bit more. Reflecting on the day showed me what challenge I was facing early in the day and provided hope in humanity from the caring of strangers. Not bad for a Thursday, eh?

I instantly heard the song chosen for today when the first man offered to help. Guardian angels were at work for me today. The story at the beginning is a bit schmaltzy, but the lyrics say what I felt today. Enjoy!

Angels Among Us -- Alabama

Day 6 - 337 -- Followed by Sunshine

Today began well and continued in a positive vein. I spent some time visiting and chatting with colleagues, who were working on grading and exam prep for the next couple of weeks. It was enjoyable to catch up a bit. The sun had been vaguely visible when I walked up to campus today. I had to find my sunglasses. As the day progressed, clouds separated to show blue sky and more direct sunshine. Walking home this afternoon saw a largely clear blue sky. The moon was visible when walking out later to supper with a friend.

The ability to see and feel the sun today seemed to affect people as they chatted and walked down the street. Many smiles and addressed people they didn't know to remark on the delight of seeing even a bit of sunshine after twilight like days for over a week. I even felt a bit lighter as I walked along.

Local trees are lit in the park and on campus. Street lamps on Main Street are decorated and store windows have become curated winter and holiday displays. I plan to try to get the tree up this weekend. and head out for a wreath from the tree lot at the mall. Mailing dates for parcels and cards is looming, so getting packages together may also be part of the weekend.

The song today comes from my favourite Christmas movie -- Love, Actually <smile>. It is heard everywhere as we walk through stores and malls. The power of this young voice always amazes me. Enjoy!

All I Want for Christmas -- Olivia Olson

Day 6 - 336 -- Time and Tide

I'm under no misapprehension that as we age changes will be the norm -- physical, financial, health and such. Today found me doing firsts that pushed one's age up into one's face <smirk> more than usual. To be honest, I rarely think about my age, so when something forces me to do so, it can be surprising. I haven't felt like what I thought might occur at certain ages. I am not hiding from it, I just have to stop and think when asked how old I am. I'm trying to do mental math and finding that difficult; none of my three degrees was in math <smile>.

As a health professional, I've been acutely aware that research in gerontology and geriatrics has been sadly underfunded for decades. This, despite knowing that a large wave of Baby Boomers was headed into retirement age. There have been some heartening beginnings in the past few years, but this is far too late, when the middle of the boomer cohort is about 63 (range about 53-73 depending on the definition of the years involved -- if the definition of boomers couldn't be agreed upon, no wonder we couldn't get clinical, social and psychological research up and running <sigh>). Some wonderful research into aging had been part of the NASA shuttle missions and lab studies at Johnson Space Center. These studies help with understanding of bone, muscle and fat mass changes with aging and with being confined to bed -- even for a few days for an infection. So, now we see people up and walking to the bathroom just hours after a hip replacement. New biologic medications are treating many difficulties common in older aged adults. Very cool, indeed. I didn't mean to make it sound hopeless, but we could have been much further down this road if we'd stopped arguing about who was going to be navigator and just started the journey. <sigh>

Lyrics from the selection of the day address how time can pass by while moving forward. Enjoy!

Fly Like an Eagle -- Steve Miller Band

Day 6 - 335 -- Power in Words

Words hold power. There's a word bandied about in general conversation that can diminish the power in its meaning. Love. I love cinnamon buns. I loved the sunshine today. Ooo -- I love that song. <smile> Yet, I would posit that we tend not to use it in a more personal way nearly as often as we should. In a social media post based on the fragility and foibles of life, a good friend challenged readers to tell the people who mean something to us just how much they mean. Those someday promises we make to ourselves may never appear and the chance to say what needs to be said disappears.

I've been working at letting people know how important they are in my life. A favourite teacher who taught me much about walking through this life received a letter years ago. He still carries it with him daily. It is quite tattered, but obviously meant a lot to him. When I wrote the letter -- yes, on paper with a pen <smile> -- I just wanted him to understand the difference he'd made in my life. I had no idea the difference it would make in his. So, find a way to say what you want to say face to face, through electronic media or in print. You and the recipient will be the better for you efforts.

Lyrics of a song came to mind while pondering this topic today. These words clearly note both the casual and the deeper ways in which a word can be used. The melody and vocal delivery provide an upbeat happy way to communicate a message. I love the banjo and keyboards <wink>. NOTE:  The video is odd, distracting and out of sync with lyrics, so I suggest just listening with the screen off or eyes closed <grin>. Enjoy!

The Most -- Jon Troast

Day 6 - 334 -- Heavy Lifting

Waiting until the snow stopped overnight was a good plan. A fair amount fell leaving 4 to 6 inches on all surfaces. I shoveled the front porch and a path to the town sidewalk out front. The snow contained much water given the temperature sitting around freezing making for heavy wet slogging. The worst was the inch or so at the bottom of the piles where the slushy snow glued itself to the ground. A jarring experience -- literally and figuratively <smile>. I left the side of the house and the back porch to do tomorrow. The end of the drive wasn't tackled given the weight of the snow. If these chunks of snow and slush don't shrink quickly, then I'll have to call a guy with a plow <smile>. The day eneded with a great chat with a friend.

I listened to music and watched the blue sky and birds in the trees as I worked through the snow. Those pauses helped me to finish without being overly winded. Shoveling snow can be damaging if not done slowly and with care. I chose a song with a title that fit the main activity of the day. the lyrics feel reflective, something shoveling always moves me towards. Enjoy!

While I shovel snow -- The Walkmen

Day 6 - 333 -- Major Weather Visits

Wind and snow continued through the day and into the night. All is expected to quell into tomorrow. That will make this almost three days of wind and precipitation, both frozen and not. A couple from down the road were unable to get to a matinee musical play, so had texted their tickets to a friend of mine. Getting to the show wasn't far to drive. I waded out through 4+inches of snow and the knee deep piles at the end of the driveway left by the street plow. While it was snow, it was very wet and walking to the car and then to the building left us both wishing we had a towel. The play went well, though it seemed rather long for the little ones that were in the audience.

Back home I did more laundry and made something for supper -- basic boring -- or mundane -- tasks. I left the shoveling to tomorrow once the snow stops falling. I will admit to feeling this is a bit early for such a storm and snow accumulation. I heard other say that, too. Yet, similar scenes have appeared in the social media memories noting that similar meteorological events have occurred with great regularity at this time of year. I would much rather nothing like this storm forced its way into my view at least until the end of December. That was the usual time for a major snow event when I moved here over 20 years ago. So, it begins for another year -- my blogging about my dislike of winter weather events <smile>.

A song came to mind today that seemed perfect for the day and the comments I heard from so many other people about this disruption to life as we'd wish it to be. Interestingly, I found myself using a few descriptive words for the snow that were not included in this lengthy listing. <grin>  Enjoy!

50 Word for Snow -- Kate Bush

Day 6 - 332 -- e-Communications

Winds remained throughout the day and will continue into tomorrow. Most of the day involved rain or wet snow that melted on contact with roads and sidewalks. By the time I headed home, the sun had set and the winds were still very strong -- the kind that blow you off the sidewalk into traffic. Sidewalks were slick where the slushy schmutz that had covered them began to freeze. Not too bad for walking then, but it will be slippery as the evening wears on and snow begins to fall in earnest.

While in the office trying to work with a file sharing program today to edit existing parts of a research project, I had less luck than in the past with this software package. This time I could get nothing to work for me. I was > < this close to getting the edits into the correct places in the proposal. I fear I said something untoward and then just shut down to walk back home. <sigh> Then when walking, I thought of what I'd read today from an interview with Helen Mirren. She has a major social media presence, so is no Luddite. Yet I was struck by her comment stating, "I am rather happy that I knew the world before technology. The constant learning process of technology can be sort of exhausting. It seems like every week you have to learn something new about how to pull up WhatsApp or something." (Crisolago, M. Zoomer, Nove 25, 2019).  This statement had me thinking of correspondence and how that has changed so dramatically. Knowing what it had been like, might give those of a certain age <smile> a different perspective than those who have never lived in a world without such communication technology. I think of how letters between friends or partners had been cherished and saved, sometimes tied up in a lovely length of ribbon as a keepsake. Now, such conversations may be lost to the ether or with some software may be saved. The latter can be even better than the letters tied in a pretty bow, since the software would save both sides of a conversation. The time needed to correct a misunderstanding is much less than weeks between posted letters. So, contrary to the difficulty I had with software today, software may improve personal record keeping. <smile>

There are so many songs about letters, something else that may change as e-communications dominate. I found one originally recorded way back in the day. I chose a cover version that is just a bit more recent because I like the artist's vocal style and this has an arrangement much different than the original. Enjoy!

The Letter -- Joe Cocker

Day 6 - 331 -- Checking In

In a blog from 2016, Meg Conley noted three questions that they discussed around the dinner table each evening. I loved this approach to checking in with family. This becomes even more special when I realize that fewer and fewer families eat together each day. So -- the questions.

      1. How were you brave today?
      2. How were you kind today?
      3. How did you fail today?

Now those are challenging each in their own way. Today I am going to try to address each of these, though I've found that the lines between each are rather blurred.

Let's start with being kind. While at the hospital this morning for the annual blood work, I met my former neighbour and her niece. The neighbour moved out of the house next door to me within the past month. I was so happy to see her, I gave her a big hug. She now lives at a seniors assisted living complex. I told her their dining services were fantastic. I felt so much better seeing her and I hope I helped her somewhat, too.

So , being brave. When I walked back down the hill from the hospital, I stopped at Timmy's for a cup of tea. Fasting blood work means I miss my morning caffeine, so I decided to treat myself to a cuppa and a nosh (mixing cultural references now it seems). As I sat looking out at the rain, I was caught unawares by almost tears followed by a big smile -- all within less than a second. I chose to look more deeply into this surprising emotional mix. Happiness and delight were tempered by something more negative. Naming that emotion took time. My brain worked away at this while I was moving through the 'to do' list for the day. The result noted it feels a bit like being alone or wanting something that just isn't possible in this moment. Now, to me alone is not the same as lonely; in fact, alone can be a very positive place but it also can be something that pushes one into the abyss. So -- realizing this feeling, I tried two things that have helped in the past. This is where the failure part of the day arrived. These problem solving techniques just didn't change the feelings. Other calming strategies will be tried as the evening progresses. It is a fervent wish that one of these works.

In other failures today -- yes, I may need to be kinder to me <smile> -- As I walked down the street a block from the house, a car, a large puddle and I had an encounter. I couldn't step further away from the curb as there is a house right up to the edge of the sidewalk there. The car could have slowed, though. I recall saying something very ungracious about the driver after the waist high wave soaked the bottom of the coat and the jeans from my knees down. This has happened to me in the past without this petulant response. I recall in Saskatoon, as I waited at the corner to cross the street, there was a moderate lake growing on the roadway. I stepped a good 6 feet back from the curb only to be fully showered from head to toe by a passing motorist. It is just water after all. <smile>

While still working through this one, the chorus lyrics of a song came back to my mind. Other of these lyrics deal with loss, which is not the issue today. The chorus, though, deals with a feeling of being alone and has been whispering in my ear lately <smile>. Enjoy!

You are not Alone -- Michael Jackson

Day 6 - 330 -- Looking Ahead

An interesting and full day is nearing an end. Three meetings occurred. One dealt with a new project for development of a presentation for a summer conference. This has the potential to become a full blown research project. So this is the new shiny thing on my desk -- that thing that distracts me from focusing on existing project writing -- like I need anything external to mess with concentration  <smile>. In all three meetings, I found myself being extra tangential -- heading the conversations off into some morass of fun details that don't get us through an agenda or even make a sensible point <sigh>.

While walking home after the final meeting, I found myself semi-focused on what was going on inside and outside that interfered with plans for the day. I discovered a sense of anticipation but for a bundle of events -- all outside my control (of course! <smile>). Running between meetings I quickly said hello to a few friends, but had to postpone a chat until next week. A positive thing. I will do a public presentation in three weeks -- the topic was chosen months ago, so this will require getting back to what I meant by the longer title. <smile> These are good things with excitement and smiles. The weather forecast for the next week appears dismal at best, with some form of accumulating frozen precipitation appearing on every daily icon. Other changes on the home front are expected in the coming days. These induce negative stress.

Taking the moments to check in with myself led me to realize that living in the moment has been helping me to smile rather than obsess on as many 'what ifs' as is usual in my wee brain. That was cool to realize. There are more positives right now than negatives <smile>. Lucky me. Looking forward can be positive or much less than that. Finding the balance for the day helped me to feel much calmer -- not full on calm and cool, but less stressed. I'll take it. I chose the song for today because of the chorus lines that state what I recognized today as the reason behind my recent bouts of being late for meetings and appointments as well as the overwhelming sense of waiting for something new to arrive. The final lines sound like a live in the moment message. Overall, I found the revelations of my walking and thinking today to be quite rewarding. Enjoy!

Anticipation -- Carly Simon

Day 6 - 329 -- Odd Events

Surprisingly, the day began with full bright sunshine. It felt wonderful for walking in the morning and again in the mid-afternoon. Perhaps the key aspect of the day involved my inability to be where I needed or wanted to be at the appointed time. I was late rolling out of bed, but had enough time to get to the office as planned. Then, mysteriously, no water came out of the taps when turned on. After my call being diverted to the county office instead of the town utility line, I discovered that there was some valve replacement occurring two to three blocks away and we were all without water from the main. I keep a couple of gallons of bottled water for such emergencies. This helped with breakfast preparation as well as washing up dishes and me. My afternoon meeting began about 20 minutes late, so ended later. At that time, I ate lunch -- later than usual. When heading to the 3:15  eye appointment, I saw that it was 3 PM as I left the office and the walk takes about 20 minutes depending on lights and traffic. Late again. I had a great conversation with the optometrist, and being her last appointment of the day, she was later than usual finishing. I was pleased to see that the sun had set by the time I left the optometrist's office, since my eyes were dilated. Granted the headlights all looked extra sparkly tonight, but it beat the heck out of battling sunshine with ginormous pupils. So, all of this and some force of nature was trying to get my attention while seated at my office desk. Three times I spilled something in the same space on the desk -- tea, chili oil from the tuna, and yogurt. I have no idea why this happened, but will see if it continues tomorrow. I do hope not, since the meetings tomorrow allow a comfortable space between each to allow me to eat lunch, head to the copier and catch up on backlogged e-mails. On the upside, I did some tiny bits of writing for one larger project. My focus was challenged, but the muse was close by, likely just outside playing in the sunshine.

A song I'd mentioned in a conversation yesterday came back to me as I walked down the road to the highway. I thought through other possible songs, but chose this one due to the appointment at the end of the work day. I toyed with the idea on the walk home. Enjoy!

Sunglasses at Night -- Corey Hart

Day 6 - 328 -- Revisiting Warmer Evenings

Weather was warmer than yesterday, but with the wind felt colder. Spitty rain arrived early in the afternoon. I was out getting groceries and other supplies needed to get through the next while. By later afternoon, I walked out to the physio to deal with my neck - again. These visits do help as do the stretching exercises. Morning routine is getting more filled with various stretches for this and sundry aches and pains. <smile>.

Given the colder feel of the air of late, I guess I've been thinking of warmer climes, without fully realizing it. I heard a song that reminded me of time spent with friends in Hawaii at a research conference. We met for a drink before dinner. I had snagged a table early since I was staying nearby and they were outside the central city area. It was located on a small outdoor deck facing west. This created a lovely start to the evening. We watched the sunset across the Pacific from Waikiki drinking mai tais. After dark we went to a Thai restaurant for a delicious dinner and had such fun talking. We considered phoning home to let people know that it was 25C outside after the sunset and that it had been -25C at home before sunset. When we calculated the time difference (7 hours) we took a photo to share with colleagues and poke at the weather later in person. One of those people is no longer with us and the other two are retired away, one with health issues. It does make me smile when I recall all the laughter that night.

The song chosen for today dropped as a single about 10 days ago. It seemed perfect to share with you since hearing this song made me realize I'd been thinking of being elsewhere with friends. Enjoy!

Mai Tais -- Train ft. Skylar Grey

Day 6 - 327 -- Major Rock Voice

The sun shone for much of the day providing something very different than the past couple of weeks. Time was spent working on household projects and chores. Nothing of note to highlight there <smile>. Early in the afternoon, the tree guy came by to trim the branches over the wires, at the east end of the house where storms bends trees down to the roof, and to remove the two larger branches of the tree damaged by Dorian last September. It was a good day to be outdoors working -- warm with little wind and no precipitation. He'll be back mid-week to put everything in the large pile in the back yard through the chipper. That will clean up the area by the back door and the path to the next yard -- where there could be a pathway to Main Street (if someone will take responsibility for the large tree trunk lying across the path <sigh>).

For a chunk of the afternoon, I streamed music from the band featured here. Twenty-eight years ago today Freddie Mercury died. His amazing singing and song-writing skills have been discussed for decades and more recently, emphasized in the biopic Bohemian Rhapsody. I've chosen two selections today. The first brings a view into the progressive (prog) rock genre of the mid-1970s. This one is a classic <smile>. The second song was written by Mercury as a tribute to Elvis Presley. It definitely has that rockabilly feel to it -- a major departure from Queen's other genres. Enjoy!

Bohemian Rhapsody -- Queen


Crazy Little Thing Called Love -- Queen 

Day 6 - 326 -- Season Begins

The day began with sunshine making its way through the windows and onto the floor and walls. That was lovely -- even if rather fleeting. Clouds returned as the day progressed. We headed back home from Halifax encountering bits of drizzle and in one spot bits of frozen drizzle. Neither was enough to create travel issues. When home, I unpacked and got laundry together and begun. A few errands called my name, so I headed out to three vendors for the items needed in the next few hours. The wind was biting cold with temperatures just below freezing. In the early evening I bundled up in winter gear to stand on Main Street to watch the Santa Claus Parade. It seems a bit early for this by a week or so, but weather cooperated, with many people lining the streets. I was in constant motion just to keep the legs warm. A pair of rain pants would have kept the wind from trying to freeze the quads <smile>. After a few more chores around the house, I had a wonderful chat with a friend -- a lovely way to end a great day.

Given the arrival in town today of a man in a red suit, I felt that the song should suit the season despite it being a tad early in my head. So, if you too feel holiday music could wait must a bit longer, I do apologize. Enjoy!

The Old Man's Back in Town -- Garth Brooks, Kenny Rogers, & Trisha Yearwood

Day 6 - 325 -- Road Trip

The morning began a bit cloudy, but with some sunshine behind and between clouds. A friend and I set out for a roadtrip to Halifax. We stopped in Truro so I could get some supplies from the only store in the Atlantic area that seems to carry these products. Once in Halifax, we stopped at two stores for our other errands that can only be done in the 'big city' <smile>. We had a rest at the condo and then headed out for supper at a delightful Turkish restaurant. We shared the dolmas appetizer with warm flatbread. The Kafte entree was fantastic and the malbec paired very well with the spiciness of the kebab. Sadly, no baclava available that evening. It was still cooking. We headed out into the drizzle and walked the few blocks to the concert venue. Gordon Lightfoot was resuming his tour after a fall that left a major flesh wound last July.

What a wonderful experience. He so loves what he does. He's writing material for a new album. He stood for 90 minutes, performing song after song. This is the 80 Years Strong Tour. He turned 80 just before it got started and celebrated 81 a week ago. While he had some difficulty with rhinitis, once he cleared passages with a steroid inhaler, he hit some wonderful notes. Many hits were included along with some lesser known songs. It was fantastic to realize that most of the audience was softly singing along with him for the most well known songs. It was a gentle sound, not like that encountered at louder rock concerts when everyone just screams off key <smile>. It made me smile to see that not all audience members had silver hair -- good that those behind the Boomers appreciate the folk sound of this Canadian troubadour.

When back at the condo we had a glass of wine and talked. I was shocked when I realized it was 2:30 AM. Luckily no need to be up and headed back home really early. <smile> The two of us have been able to talk about everything for extended periods of time ever since we met. Good to have friends like that.

Needless to say, choosing songs for the this edition of the blog is challenging -- so many wonderful songs from which to choose. I've chosen two even though I want to do the full set list for you all <smile>.  These aren't the bigger hits, but ones that made me smile in their gentleness and poetic lyrics and melody. I so love his vocal phrasing and delivery -- so distinctive. The first song speaks to aspects of moving through life stages. This live version was from over a decade ago. Most band members seen in the video are the same as tonight and have been with him since 1960s (bassist) and into the early 1970s (keyboards and drums) with the lead joining about 2011 when he replaced a lost lead of 40 years. Tonight, he played a single encore. He introduced the song noting it was about a season we are entering. It is beautiful. Enjoy!


A Painter Passing Through -- Gordon Lightfoot


Song for a Winter's Night -- Gordon Lightfoot



 

Day 6 -- 224 -- Working Together

The day began with a phone meeting for an upcoming presentation. Members on the call were on both coasts and in the center of the country. It was interesting to be together planning while in 3 time zones. Another meeting will occur next week to set up the 'to do' list for gathering information and developing something that is as good as what the original plan stated <smile>. Other errands and phone calls involved collaborative efforts to see something come together. I enjoy working together to bring an idea into the light where it can be shared and built upon by others. I'm not sure any idea is truly and original individual thought, since we can get ideas from just being around other people and places. Such kernels of ideas hide away in the brain until they are ready to burst forth. When they do, we've forgotten where that one little semi-idea originated, so could take credit ourselves. We might take it, run with it, and produce something easily consumed by the masses, but that idea likely is part of ideas left by many other people. Interesting. Taking the idea and working it through the mind of others makes the final product so much more perfect. It is a painful process at times, but generally leaves one with pride in a job well done.

A song that was #1 on the UK charts 38 years ago involved a major musical collaboration. This was the first time David Bowie collaborated with other musical artists to record and release a song. Enjoy!

Under Pressure -- David Bowie & Queen

Day 6 - 323 -- Where's the Muse?

 I was back at the office for the first time in a week. but slow to get back into the rhythm. The day brought a meeting to edit a co-authored document;  setting meetings for planning a presentation; working to put thoughts into words -- sometimes things just flow and other times it is a struggle. Being away from this for a while can make it challenging to become immersed again -- like swimming -- getting fully wet feels very cold and hesitating can just drag out the process. Taking the plunge doesn't feel easy either some days <smile>.  Once I get down to reviewing notes and adding words and phrases to existing writing, it should be easier to get back to getting words on a blank page. I have to be kind to me but still not hold up my co-authors and reviewers.

Needless to say, my inability to focus brings with it a feeling of being lost. Working through the clutter that enters the mind as I try to begin to write can feel overwhelming. Where should I begin? How can I get that writing groove back? Where do the writing muses like to hang out? I really need one right now. I will be taking another two days later this week to do 'me' things. I hope that will bring about the relaxed feelings needed for focus into the following days. It takes time to get things organized and sorted -- reviewing concepts and phrasing from the previous notes. It will work out -- it always does, but being calm and accepting of what feels like a delay is rather difficult.

A song came to mind that took me back to the greyness of the weather at this time of year. I said to a store clerk that I've just as happy if things went from autumn directly into spring. <smile> Now that seems like ignoring a quarter of each year -- time when so much could be accomplished and enjoyed. The song lyric and arrangement made me smile again and provided a window to hope. It may just counter the 'I want this done now!' mood -- which also impedes forward movement in the writing process. Enjoy!

Here Comes the Sun -- The Beatles 

Day 6 - 322 -- Walking and Thinking

Physical activity today involved walking out to an appointment and some yard work. Music was a part of each of these. The walk was about 25 minutes up and back. I then spent another 20 moving a branch that was somewhat larger than I'd expected. It was more awkward than heavy, being soft wood. These activities worked several different muscle groups.  The activity allowed the brain to clear a bit. A number of things are swirling around on personal and professional fronts.

Focus on ideas seems easier when doing a physical activity -- something mindless that allows the mind to work unimpeded. I recall Golda Meir saying that she would polish silver when she had something big to think through. I find cooking and cleaning can let the mind work, often providing interesting viewpoints, analogies or solutions. Sitting and trying to think just doesn't work as well. So, lesson learned here -- keep the runners close by when working through things. <smile> 

The first couple of lines from a song flitted around in my head today as I walked and thought (which often has me talking to myself, too <smile>). The tempo would work well for a fast walking pace. Enjoy! 

I'm Walkin' -- Fats Domino 

Day 6 - 319 -- Sorting Emotions

The day was a study in loss. The memorial service for a dear friend was wonderful. The room was lit by soft purple flood lights -- her favourite colour. Great photos of her life played on three screens so all tables could see without twisting necks or chairs. It was as if we were surrounded by her in a warm hug. A table display of red roses, deep purple urn and a pair of her purple sequinned chucks brought a smile mixed with a tear or two. Wonderful tributes were presented by family and friends, each filled with cherished memories that brought tears and laughter. I am so glad our group of friends was able to attend. It meant so much to grieve together. Our evening also brought many more memories and story-telling complete with much laughter.

Pondering brought me to see the delay in return of my suitcase as an analogy. Failure to deliver the suitcase today as promised, led me to thinking that clothes and such can be replaced, but the emotions and memories that surround such objects can make the threat of loss feel more intense. The acuteness of the loss of a good friend was really at the centre of any fleeting emotions that were in the luggage debacle.When examining the emotions.of the day, I realized that it was disappointment with a trusted airline vendor that became intermingled with the multitude of emotion associated with the loss of my friend. Learning to tease out the small stuff to be able to focus on the larger events of life is a difficult lesson.

I was reminded earlier in the week of the wise words of another dear friend that continue to resonate with me during the loss of this amazing woman. His words state,

"Some things that we don't want to happen, we have to accept.
  Some things we don't want to know, we have to learn.
  Some people we don't know how to live without, we just have to let go."  (PG Barton)

A song that echoes these sentiments somewhat is by another musician. I've used it here before when writing about the nature of grief and loss.  Enjoy!

Let the Tree Fall -- James Lee Stanley

Day 6 - 321 -- Family of Friends

After 4.5 hours of sleep, I headed to the airport for a ridiculously early check in time of 4:30 AM. I got there at 4:45 for the 6:30 AM flight and the place was abuzz with many people doing similar early morning departures. The trip home meant that, once again, I'd be far away from many friends who truly are family. We met online about 25 years ago in a music fan group. The much larger group went through stages of community building. We came together based on common musical interests (forming phase). We entered a time of unrest and jockeying for position within the larger group (storming phase). We established a code of conduct -- mostly to be inclusive, kind and value differences that would be encountered. At this point, smaller enclaves of like-minded folks formed stronger bonds (norming phase). Our smaller group found online platforms to support our daily communications -- an amazingly wonderful aspect of newer technologies that bring people together (performing phase).

This line of thought brought to mind a quote from Edward R. Murrow (1958). Granted Murrow was speaking about television, but I posit this same premise fits use of any electronic flickering screen device.

"This instrument can teach, it can illuminate; yes, it even can inspire. but it can do so only to the extent that humans are determined to use it to those ends. Otherwise it's nothing other than wires and lights in a box."

Somewhere in the midst of these four phases of development, our little band became a family. I now know spouses and kids of the original members. I love each and every one of them. I find explaining this can often be met with quizzical, disparaging, and pitying looks. This weekend it became very apparent to outside others that we were so much more than a group of crazy music fans. It may have started there, but it has grown and matured like a wonderful red wine -- with all the complex tasting notes blending together to become a singular entity -- hence, we've called it family. A group who chose to be family. While great geographic distances separate us from meeting for coffee regularly, they are all close to me in my head and my heart. Thankfully, we live in a time when technology allows continued daily contact through spoken and written word; so the closeness and longing to see each other can be somewhat assuaged. Sadly virtual smiles, laughter, tears and hugs, which are a delight to receive, just don't fully measure up to the real thing <smile>.

Lyrics of the song I chose for today speak to strong friendships. The video in the version shared here shows several people enjoying a collaborative effort as friends might. The title was heard many times this weekend as people thanked one or all of us for our parts in the celebration of life for one of family members. Enjoy!

That's What Friends are For -- Dionne Warwick ft. Elton John, Gladys Knight, and Stevie Wonder

Day 6 - 320 -- Parting Wishes

Quick luggage update -- bag arrived at hotel 39 hours after it should have arrived with me. It took the airport 14.5 hours to get it into a vehicle for delivery. Who knew fresh socks would have such an effect? <grin> I did do a happy dance -- the cranberry dance of joy -- when it was delivered to my room, even though it was two hours before I checked out.

Most people gathered for the memorial headed home today. After a great breakfast at an amazing little diner, most of our group headed off in all directions. Three of us leave tomorrow, so we spent time with a dear local friend visiting and chatting. We were treated to a tour of the recording studio and introduced to four guitars -- two acoustic and two electric (a Les Paul and a Strat). Listening to various recording projects brought smiles and felt relaxing. We headed out for supper and a great visit over wonderful Italian meals. The piccata was amazing. <smile> Further great conversations occurred into the evening.The face to face visits with friends were true gifts.

Today it became patently clear - again - that I don't do goodbyes well. I suggested that we all find ways to gather as larger or smaller groups with some regularity, instead of the ubiquitous and nebulous 'someday'. These friendships should be nurtured, particularly at this point in the game. <smile> There were a few songs that came to mind for the main aspect of the day. I finally settled on one that stated well one of my lifelong difficulties with saying goodbye even when it is really a 'see you later' or 'see you soon'. Much of the story in the lyrics deals with something very different than the experience of the day, but there are bits of lyric, including the title, that fit me well. Enjoy!

Never Can Say Goodbye -- The Jackson 5

Day 6 - 318 -- Tears and Cardio

The day began with a chilly walk uphill to campus while pulling my suitcase and carry on. I was headed for the 0715h bus to the airport. This walk brought with it a cardio workout. We left Halifax about an hour late, so arrived in Montreal with about 25 minutes to catch the connecting flight. I was ready to run, but feared the worst given that I needed to clear customs and security again. A cart was waiting for five of us with flights that had already begun to board. The cart went faster than I've ever seen. My hair was blowing in the breeze!  She had to let us off at the US boarder crossing area, but had saved us all 12 to 15 minutes making that long trek through the airport. We ran to the end of the hall. Boarding passes scanned. We ran down a long hall making a hard left into the security area where we emptied our luggage and semi-disrobed. We were ready to run in our stocking feet but were encouraged by security to put shoes back on. Off we went down the next hall into a - thankfully -  empty customs hall. I was the only one there as the 4 for Pittsburgh were ahead of me. Out of there, through the doors right into the perfume section of duty free. Luckily got out of there without getting lost or fainting from constricted airways from the scent. Out into the hallway with gates it became clear that my gates were at the bitter end and the moving sidewalks went to the opposite wing. Another long hallway with a sharp right turn ran into an even longer one. By this time I felt shin splints, but kept on going. At the end of the hall was an escalator down to my gate and the one for Pittsburgh. As I ran down the moving staircase the gate agent shouted, Are you Raleigh? Know I just answered yes, but was thinking I should have a long cape and a tricorn hat. I ran onto the plane with the door closing behind me while the flight attendant announced that boarding was complete. That felt odd as I was the only one in the aisle walking to the back of the plane. I checked my watch when I got seated and it just over 25 minutes since I left the other plane. Kudos to the airline crew for getting all to the planes on time.

Now, there were cathartic tears for making that wild run through the airport. Then I realized it was unlikely that the suitcase made the transfer. We then sat in line for de-icing. This process covered my window with thick lime green semi-liquid. No one could accuse me of looking through rose coloured glasses <grin>. Now this is where there were a couple of patches of blue sky with visible sun. Still not sure if that was to mock me or give me hope that all would work out.

Sadly, when I arrived in Raleigh-Durham, my bag was a no-show. My friend and I checked with the airline desk and were met with major ineptitude. A call to customer service got me further in 5 minutes than the 20+ minutes spent at the desk with workers carrying on two private conversations intermingled with occasional snippets with me and another customer. A letter will be written recommending that the situation with the contractor be reviewed. The  bag was located still in  Montreal and would be sent on the only flight daily tomorrow and delivered to the hotel. This meant that I had only my jeans and Hard Rock shirt to wear to the memorial service tomorrow. It took me a while to come to terms with that.

So, the day was brought to me by the colour lime green popsicle. The RFID holder for the passport is this colour. Today I learned that these cannot be carried through the security scanner. The de-icing solution changed my world view to something very bright green instead of ominous grey. Lastly, when asked the colour of my bag - GREEN - was recorded. I hoped they did not look for something that bright when mine is a darker tone.

The song for today involves my travel destination.  I love this soothing voice. Enjoy!

Carolina in my Mind -- James Taylor